Sex and the Resort

This is the first installment of of my attempt to write about the sexual exploits here at the resort. This will be sort of along the lines of "Sex In The City" but with an obvious twist!

****The names have been changed to protect the innocent and NOT so innocent****

I will be Carrie since I am going to narrate these installments - you all will have to figure out who is Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda on your own!

Lets first get you all up to date! I arrived up here on the mountain in the middle of May of this year. Upon arrival I loved the laid back atmosphere and the fact that I could just be myself without worrying about what other people thought of me! I had heard about the "Barn" and did not ever have any intention of ever visiting there. I went down there while it was being cleaned for the season just to see what it looked like and again stated I would never be there.

Well - lets just say I have been there probably 6 times and have "participated" in activities twice. The first time was the night the lights went out and there were only a few people here. The second time was a drunken lashing out at myself for being me - the one that was always in control, etc. Even then, I only "barned" with one person. It is funny to think that a few of the folks that go there, have a group of people around them. I have never been a group type of guy, but understand that being a man - sometimes the hormones take over. Any further visits will be to witness and report back for these installments again protecting the folks involved. This is not meant to be a judgemental report at all, but to monitor and digest what some of our society (gay) resort to sexually when given the opportunity and/or just to feel loved and accepted.

The barn is the type of place where you have to be very discreet and quiet. The lighting is minimal and the atmosphere is very back woodsy, clandestine, and anything goes. Its reminiscent of the backrooms and bath-houses that are in most major cities. A good depiction of what it is like would be to watch any bar episode of "Queer As Folk" or the movie "Torch Song Trilogy". To name just a few. There is a wooden box built right into the barn on the left as you enter through a sliding wooden door. This box is filled with Condoms regularly and unfortunately there can be some that refuse to use them, and should.

Needless to say, those that truly know me, know that I am not the most graceful and quiet person. I have burst out laughing in there before and got "shushed"! I have stubbed my toe on entering and staggered into the barn while screaming obscenities - at which point - about 8 people ran out! I can clear a room - and now even a barn! LOL

There can also be drama down there! If ones boyfriend decides to partake and doesn't really inform the other of his need, there can be fireworks. There have been folks actually physically try to remove their dates, boyfriends, etc. Its almost a "no holes barred" kinda atmosphere even outside of that place. Friends and acquaintances will even make out with each other. One person - I will call Colin - told me about someone else I am friends with - who was making out with him outside the barn this past weekend. I was floored as Colin's kisser does not strike me as the type when he is not at the barn! Its almost like folks change dramatically when there. Sometimes these same people will call other folks "Trash" and a "Mess" and they are just the same way. Hypocrisy does run rampant here!

To each his own and we all have to be true to ourselves and our sexual nature sometimes. I am proud of the fact that I am the same person when I am there - just more passionate and sexual. I am also proud of the fact that I am honest about it - and do not feel a need to put others down because they partake. I do have an issue with being a hypocrite as I am very honest and upfront about those things I may not be proud of about myself! I am also proud that I only have done the one-on-one type of hook-up - and then its not every night. I laugh my ass off when someone comes up to me and states that are embarrassed or ashamed about what they did Friday night and then they are there getting involved in even more on Saturday night!

I felt a tad unsure this past Friday about my actions - so on Saturday night I ended up leaving the bar earlier - going down with a friend of mine - checking things out - talking to him - and then coming right back up and going to bed. The only thing I judge is when someone is dishonest with me about it and puts others down for the same thing. I have no tolerance for dishonesty or hypocrisy! We all have to answer to our own conscious and we are all human. I try very hard not to say one thing and then do another.

Tune in this weekend for "Christmas Presents - Wrapped and unwrapped!"