I received a comment on my last entry from someone whom I have never met - her name is Robin. Her were words were so compelling and thought provoking that I felt I needed to devote an entire entry to her along with my response!
First of all, I appreciate her insight and encouragement and the fact that she obviously took the time to write a rather lengthy comment. It was unbelievable that someone I have actually never met in person could devote that much time to respond with such fortitude and insight! Thank you Robin for your time and effort - the world needs more folks like you!
Now in response................
The comment " whoever said love was a many splendor thing was delusional" had me laughing my ass off! As for understanding why he doesn't feel the same, I think I have that one down...................you ready? Its because he is blind - lol Now seriously, he is a wonderful person and we are great friends! We have discussed this when he found out the way how I was feeling about him. He was as honest as he could be and explained that I am one of the most important people in his life! He has had many struggles in his life when it comes to love and is working through some issues within himself when it comes to love, that he did not want to take the chance of ruining our close friendship! I am totally and completely comfortable with that and I do not take his decision personally!
In order to reconcile my feelings and insure it does not effect our friendship, I have separated the friendship from the stronger feelings. Its almost like mentally I have made him into two different people - twins if you will. The Friend one is very important to me and we get along wonderfully and have a great time together. But his brother, Mister Romeo, for lack of a better term, I have not seen since early on in our relationship when he actually was interested in me romantically. Let me make this clear - based on my experiences with mister Romeo - and my thoughts as it pertains to his love experiences and issues he is working through - I know nothing could come of it and he is not the person for me romantically! I will not go into detail about any of that, as it would be unfair and unjust of me to share any of his personal information in this forum! Just suffice it to say, he did me a favor and showed his caring for me and my feelings, by not pursuing me romantically.
Also, understand that I wrote "Heart and Head" blog entry to help me get that part of my feelings out and keep them from affecting other areas of my life. I am in no way sitting here pining away for him or spending all of time on that aspect of my life. Blogging has been wonderful, however, sometimes, it gives the impression, as I fear it has done here, that all I am doing is sitting in my room miserable thinking about something that I know I can't have.
My frustration is not because he doesn't feel the same way, but, because knowing all that I do know and accepting that nothing will ever come of it, I still struggle with the feelings! I know there are plenty of "fish" in the sea and I will get to do my share of "fishing". LOL Also, I am into so many things with work, my hobbies, my family, friends, etc., that I already do not have time to spend on my hearts obsession - LOL (Its the quiet times that can be a struggle)
Again, I appreciate the comments and it was nice to be reminded of some of the things Robin wrote! I am very impressed with her taking the time to insure I had all of the insight and appreciate the concern she has shown. Thanks Robin!
Suffice it to say - - - - I am truly fine with everything pertaining to this! This too shall pass!
I'm glad that she was able to be there for you. Obviously, we cannot support each other in the area of love any more... and as much as it breaks you down to hear about what's going on with me, it kills me to be beaten down over something that's not my fault, especially right now.. and don't be mad, but I probably won't be reading your blog for a little while. Not blaming you.. it's just honestly the way it is regarding this situation between us. For everything else, I am here for you.
ReplyDeleteDavid - I have no idea why you would think that it has ever bothered me to discuss your love interests! I have never felt broken down by whats going on in your love life. If anything, it reminds me that your not interested in me and gives me an insight as to why your not interested in me! I do not have any of the qualities you seek in a partner - you don't think I know that? I have worked diligently to be supportive of you in any of your attractions, strived to be objective, and have given you advice before that would keep you involved with the people you date. I have told you to just enjoy the people of interest and not be hard on them.
ReplyDeleteAs for being "beaten" down for something thats not your fault? I am totally offended by that statement as I have never beaten you down or made you feel less than because of who you are and/or your feelings towards me!
Also, how can you say we cannot support each other in the area of love? Friends are supposed to be supportive in ALL areas, regardless, of how uncomfortable it makes us! You can't pick and choose which areas your going to be friends with someone in - thats not the definition of friendship by any stretch of the word.
If you don't want to read my blog, that is up to you - none of it has ever been written to hurt you or to be against you or anything. Also, I am not mad at all - I am deeply hurt - that you have taken this out of context - I have read and re-read my blogs and never have placed blame or made you responsible.
If your FRIENDSHIP wasn't so important to me - I wouldn't have even bothered to explain and be careful about my wording in my blog...........I hope you come to realize that as I thought you already did!