Plus or Minus - You Decide

Second entry - I am getting good at this! LOL


Today's Topic - When it comes to romance, what is considered a plus and what is considered a minus in the Gay world?

I can only speak for myself, but it seems that some of my counterparts (other gay men), make snap judgements and/or draw conclusions in a negative way based on their assumptions about an individual. This is done probably very spontaneously and can mean automatically being eliminated as a romantic/sexual prospect. I am a true case in point and below I have decided to list, what I think are my plus/minus traits, etc. I am going to be as honest with myself as I can - how does one grow if they can't look at themselves objectively!!!


Lets start with the plus (+) side:



Fairly decent looking - Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

Italian/german decent - Look Italian

Very People Oriented

Considerate

Thoughtful

Sense of Humor

Sentimental

Modest

Faithful

Monogamous

Loyal

Protective

Try to be sensitive to others

Love to Laugh

Try to be Positive in outlook and actions

Down to Earth

Love all kinds of Music

Laidback

Practical

Doesn't take a lot to make me smile

Tan

A few Good friends

Caretaker

Wear my heart on my sleeve - (learning to not do it with folks who will take advantage of it)

Honest - Some people do not like honesty and I have to admit - I can be blatant in this regard!

Objective

Open to Constructive Criticism

Good Hygiene

Good Housekeeper - (when I have to be or you piss me off!)

Hate Drama/Commotion

Hate large Crowds

Love the outdoors

Will try almost anything once

Believe in the Christian Values of all encompassing Love/goodness. Reason for everything, etc. (Some of you may consider this a weakness and thats ok)

A respect for all things living - except Snakes and Spiders - which I will not kill unless they are in my way - hehehehe!

Passionate/Very Sexual - (Not many folks know this about me as I am very choosy about who gets to experience my sexual side) Can also be viewed as a weakness in my lifestyle especially!!!

Time to look at the Minus (-) Side:


Self Effacing

Insecure - at times!

Judgemental - (mostly in my head and trying to curb that tendency)

Opinionated - (another one I am trying to work on)

Sensitive - too much sometimes!

Self-centered - (who else could make a list of this nature)

Can be a unhealthy eater

Smoker

15 pounds over-weight - (although I like meat to go with my potatoes personally!)

Blatantly Honest

Too affectionate at times - to folks not comfortable with my touchy/feely personality

Mister Know-it-all - (Yes - I said it - and I know its something that I need to work on)

Being Misunderstood

Financially - Living on a shoestring

Do not drive a fancy car nor do I want to.

Could care a less about fashion

Hate to Cook

Hate to decorate!

Avoidance Tendencies - If its not broke don't fix it attitude!

Don't believe in organized Religion

Believe in some of the christian values of all encompassing love/goodness, etc. (This was listed under strengths also - some people have treated me like I have grown a second and third head on this one which is why I listed it as a weakness also!

Now I realize that some of the items I have listed as plus's, are seen by some, as minus's and thats ok. Some of my minus's can also be seen by some as plus's.

The conclusion I am drawing after re-reading this and adding to both the Plus and minus columns, is that I am not such a bad guy! Also, it is all relative and is dependant on other folks opinion of me - its all about choices and likes from individual to individual. The bottom line is I want to always look at myself objectively and try to be the best person I can be! I am concentrating on being Mister Right instead of looking for it - the right guy will come along - and if not, I will enjoy my friends and those that matter to me!

More later......................................