Age - The Next Generation!

Ok - this is my first real entry and attempt to get things off my chest on a daily basis. Today's Topic? What the F**k is up with these guys my age wanting guys half our age or younger??!!

I was working in the office and received a phone call from someone wanting a reservation to stay with us. He seemed very pleasant and started flirting with me over the phone. Now I am no stranger to this working for a Gay resort, so I just went with it and laughed at the appropriate times, etc. At one point during the conversation he asked me how old I was. I told him and he proceeded to tell me that I was way too old for him and he liked guys 18 to 25. Now this is a person that is mid 40's and sight unseen, automatically discounted me as being too old. Now I know I am probably only a 6 on a scale from 1 to 10, but I look as good if not better then some folks more then half my age! I try to be caring, compassionate, friendly, loving, understanding, a good listener, affectionate, and I have been told that I have a good sense of humor. I am ok with it as, more and more, I think to myself that its more their loss then mine, but it can still be frustrating sometimes.

Now, honestly, I could give a shit whether or not he liked me or not, however, it did remind me of how unfair some people can be and shallow. Yes - I said shallow! I know that sounds judgemental and to each his own and all that, but this is my blog so I can say what the fuck I want to say!

It irritated me because I feel like a professional athlete who is at the top of his game and is never given the chance to play because the other players feel threatened, are insecure, and just plain LAZY! So, while I was taking a nap today (as us old men like to do sometimes), I began mentally trying to figure out why someone my age would want someone half his age (or more)! I like to try and see things from other folks point of view and ponder these type of things sometimes (for better or for worse) and below are some of the possible reasons for this as I was drifting off to a dream world where I do not have so many minus points against me. (I will cover minus points in my next blog!)

Below are some of the possible reasons why middle aged men (yes I said it) would want someone half their age: (I have tried to be as fair as possible)

NOTE - SOME OF THESE ARE RELATED TO EACH OTHER and SOME OF YOU MAY FALL UNDER ALL OF THESE CATEGORIES!

*You are trying to pretend you are younger then you actually are! You just can't stand the fact that you are getting older physically and having a young guy on your arm helps you be eternally young (If only in your head).
**My answer: If this is you, GROW THE FUCK UP! We all get older and while this may delay you dealing with the age issue - it will still come biting you in the ass eventually, so you might as well face it now!

*Dating someone so much younger is an ego trip! If someone younger wants to spend time with you, its like a validation that you are still an attractive, vibrant, interesting individual, who can still kick it with the big dogs (younger guys are the big dogs - in this example).
**My answer: If you have to look to other folks - especially the younger generation - for the above reason - then you should be able to get that validation from yourself! I mean - come on - at our age - we should be at a point where we KNOW we are vibrant, attractive, interesting people. Yeah - yeah - I know the we are all insecure sometimes and have some luggage from life experiences - but looking to the younger generation for this validation only adds to that baggage!

*Dating a younger guy allows you to hide your baggage! Younger guys do not care that you have it - they may even think its endearing - or they may be too inexperienced to see that some of your baggage is really a big RED flag! (If they see your baggage at all!)
My answer: Be honest with yourself and deal with your baggage and red flags yourself. Better yet - and you might want to sit down for this - find someone more age appropriate who might be able to help you sort it out, figure it out, and put it behind you. Us older gents are much more understanding and can help you be more honest with yourself, so that you can actually grow as a person! WOW - what a concept!

*Younger guys are much more sexually exciting! They want to have sex a lot and at any time! You may even not have to do anything but get an erection - hmmm - could this be another reason - your lazy and with a younger guy they think all sex is good - so no pressure on you at all! I have to be honest here - I think some younger guys are very hot - and I may even buy a ticket to ride the kiddy ride now and again - but its nothing like the thrill of the big roller coasters for lasting excitement!
**My Answer: There is a huge misconception that middle aged guys can settle or do not want sex very often. Speaking only for myself - and some of you may be able to relate - I am just hitting my peak - if there is such a thing! I could have sex 4 times a day every day and at the very least once a day! Younger guys are not as experienced as us and in some cases can't last as long! Some younger guys have no idea what true intimacy is and/or can't even give you the definition. I love making my partner feel good and spend my time concentrating on them as opposed to myself - and yes - I am gonna say it - I can get off by the thought of pleasing someone other then myself! Also, as far as fun goes, I love to laugh and play while enjoying each others bodies! Nothing is better then feeling a connection with someone and spending time enjoying each other physically! Try to actually make love with a younger person - and 9 times out of 10 - it involves acting like a rabbit and getting off in 2 minutes!

Ok - I am sure I could come up with a few more reasons why middle aged men want younger men! My point - and here is another new concept for ya - don't look at age at all - try getting to know someone - even if you think initially they would not be your type - or if your one of those folks who make snap judgements based on age or any other factor - QUIT BEING SO SHALLOW! We all have things we are working on in our lives - whether it be age, family, health issues, bad habits, bad experiences, etc. If your allowing these things to stop you from enjoying people - that's a sad estate of affairs - and if that's the case - leave me behind and go for the Youngens!

Stepping down off my soap box for now.................................................